Boys need a Dad!
You know how I know this?? Well first of all because I grew up with four brothers….yes, I was the only girl, and it was great to be surrounded by all the love and creativity boys bring to a household. I also saw how my dad treated my brothers and how they loved my mom differently. The most fun part was seeing how protective my brothers have been with me, I love that feeling!
I myself, am lucky enough to have two children who are now older. As a woman I feel more independent being able to say I raised two great kids (So far!). Any parent who has raised teenagers knows that it doesn’t stop there, or even when they go to college. Our children will always be our babies. I also know that I haven’t done this alone, and any parent who has raised teenagers knows that it takes more than two parents to have great influence on children. I must admit thought, that over the past year I tried doing everything on my own. As an independent woman I thought I could do it after the divorce. I know that there are women out there who have the confidence of a lioness and the stamina of the energizer bunny! I would love to say that I am one of them….and even then, I still needed the help to give my son the best possible support. Because there is one thing I know, and that is, that I don’t know how to be a Man! I can only teach my son love and nurturing, and being his cheerleader and accountability source, but I can’t teach him how to be a man. So of course I had to reach out to the experts, MEN!
I had a heart to heart with his dad and other men who have been of great influence to him. It is beautiful to know that there are pretty amazing men out there who take on the responsibility of raising children with their heart on their sleeve. I can see the difference in my son having to spend more time with his dad and that being a young man is only practice for being an adult man. I think the most beautiful thing that has transpired during this time is the integrity I see shining through my son. I love the fire in his drive and the desire to make us all proud. I am not ashamed to say that I cannot do this alone. I wouldn’t even begin to pretend that I ever did. Every successful person has had a team of encouragement and support behind them. I am certain my son deserves that too.
There are crucial times in a child’s life, and one of the most important I have seen is during our teenage years. This is when we discover our own power and what role we will play in the adult world. So if you happen to have children or even plan on having them, watch out for the teenage years. As adults this is our very last chance to help shape them into the type of citizen we would like to see in the world. Which is also the reason why a group of us have come up with our own non-profit to service our communities. “Loving Hands In Motion” is the name of the non-profit I am part of. The platform is set and the board is set…..We will change this world and leave it better than we found it…..because after all, we only have one life to live, so we may as well live it right! Right?
In Love & Light,